Ever try to slow down a tornado? Not easy, is it?
Trying to find quiet time to have a private conversation with a tween isn’t easy either. But it is possible–and I promise there are some very real benefits to doing so. I learn so much from private conversations with my daughter–she loves the quality time we spend together, as do I–and I think I’m able to impart valuable information to her too.
Are you looking for a great time to have “THE TALK” with your daughter?
Why not schedule a spa day for the two of you? Or a lunch out?
You might find the perfect time for your and your tween is while playing games at home, giggling and sharing.
Or what about broaching the subject while you’re out shopping and being a bit nonchalant about things?
Whatever approach you pick, be sure to brush up on your talking points with a visit to Kotex.com. They have a complete guide to talking to your tween about her first period. I found it very helpful when I was preparing to talk to Ariel!
And know that this isn’t the only conversation you’ll have with your daughter about menstruation. Hopefully, it will be just the beginning of a new stage of your relationship, one in which you’ll share many conversations about puberty.
I was incredibly apprehensive about having “THE TALK” but have grown more comfortable talking about puberty and all of the changes that will be happening as my daughter grows up. I’ve found it important to stress that all of the women in her life (and even those famous singers, movie stars, actresses, and athletes that she admires) all have been through this process. It’s a natural part of growing up!
While it’s important for you to know all the facts and to share them with your daughter at appropriate times and in appropriate doses, it’s also important to read your tween’s body language and her verbal cues to know when to back off and when to push forward. Like I’ve mentioned before, some of our most productive conversations come while we’re in the car! But sometimes a commercial on tv spurs a question… and then we’re off! I’ve shared some of my most embarrassing moments with her–and giggled remembering my own angst at the time.
I found a great opportunity to talk to my daughter when Kotex and Mom Central sent her a cute make-up bag with some essential goodies. Certainly talking about “being prepared” –whether it’s at school, at the gym, at a friend’s house– should include conversation about keeping her hair neat, making sure she had a spare band-aid, and certainly having a pad, a feminine wipe, and even a spare pair of panties. Tucking all of this in her book bag, along with her binders, pencils, and erasers was natural and easy. And it makes this conversation part of every day life.
Have you had “THE TALK” yet? How do you find your talkable moments?
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Disclosure: I wrote this review while participating in a Brand Ambassador Campaign by Mom Central Consulting on behalf of U by Kotex Tween and received products to facilitate my post and a promotional item to thank me for taking the time to participate.
